For the last several years running, the most popular post on my Psychology of Men blog has been “Why Do Men Stonewall?” Stonewalling is withdrawing or refusing to respond to your partner. For a man, it may be a response to his own confusion or feeling overwhelmed when she’s upset. Or he may just try to stay calm in the hope that she will also calm down. Continue reading “Why Do Men Stonewall?”
Yes, but …
I’d been chatting with a lovely Christian woman & her husband about their marriage for several weeks. Although she seemed open to what I was saying about the way men think & feel & behave, she followed everything I said with a “Yes, but …” statement of her own. Continue reading “Yes, but …”
More Excellent
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. Continue reading “More Excellent”
Where did you get your mindset?
Over the past few years, I’ve worked with quite a few people who’ve struggled with what to do about a relationship. The wisdom of psychology – to give up, to walk away – made “logical sense” to them. But something just didn’t set right in their spirit. Continue reading “Where did you get your mindset?”
Men Are Complex
Men and women have a very different template for understanding (and doing) life. Mostly because nature & nurture play out in male development in ways that simply don’t happen for women. Which, as noted previously, creates some Really Big Differences that can make a man confusing – but also very desirable to the opposite sex! Continue reading “Men Are Complex”
Strong & Gentle
More than one man has encouraged me – through their own disrespectful behavior – to rebel against submission. Even so, it felt like an essential part of my identity was missing. Continue reading “Strong & Gentle”
Wonderful Womanhood
One godly man changed my life forever. My experience with him is summed up nicely with this speech [see emphasis], quoted from the 1955 film A Man Called Peter. The movie was based on the book by Catherine Marshall, wife of the future Chaplain of the U.S. Senate. Continue reading “Wonderful Womanhood”