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Your Divine Image
I believe that we are created in God’s Image.

Your Divine Design
I believe that men & women are Divinely designed to be equal in value, yet different in very significant ways.

Your Divine Purpose
I believe that we are created to do more than just survive. I believe we carry the Divine Purpose of loving & being loved.

Are you with me?

My passion & expertise is the Psychology of Men & Romance.

I was born a blue-eyed blonde who was the apple of her daddy’s eye. But shortly before I turned 3, my mom packed her friend’s car with some essential belongings and left town with my older brother and me … while my dad was at work. He had no idea what was coming. None of us did.

My dad & I didn’t reconnect until 37 years later. I knew the pain of divorce and never wanted my three sons to experience it. But they did. At least, I determined, they would never be separated from their father as my mother’s pain & fear had done to us.

Raising three sons as a single mom, as well as my desire to understand why my own father never came for me, led me into a lifelong study of men. As a result, the men I work with are often amazed at how well I “get them.”

Would you like to know more?

Read the full story in my book … including what I’ve learned about men & marriage. Available now on Kindle or softcover through

Ephesians 5 Romance: The Truth about Love

Your Love Story matters. Mostly it matters to Your Creator.
And it matters because it belongs to you.
It’s what you know and where you live.

What happened to you growing up matters
because it’s how you learned about Life and Love
… and Your Creator.

Your story has taught you a lot about who you are,
and it’s taught you about other people.

Some of what you’ve learned is true.
Some isn’t.

That’s what this book is about.

by Dr. Debi Smith

* instant encouragement
* practical tips
* Biblically-sound
* research-based

Softcover & Kindle Editions

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Build a Joyful Marriage!

Use it in Your Daily Devotions together. Each of you will want your own copy to highlight & take notes in for further study & discussion.

Men, when you take the lead you’ll …

  1. make your bride feel safe, loved & cherished as you demonstrate your consistent desire to care for her emotionally & spiritually.
  2. and build your confidence as a leader!

Set aside time to read aloud a chapter (2-6 times/week) & engage in discussion. It’s fun! And you’ll both be really glad you did!

View the FREE downloadable Discussion Guide here.

My Professional Qualifications

I earned my Doctor of Psychology (PsyD) at Rosemead School of Psychology-Biola University & am a California Licensed Psychologist (PSY21711).

I am also a Facilitator/Trainer for Prepare-Enrich, the leading Premarital & Marriage Assessment & Skill-Building Program.

Dare to Dream Again!

God can do anything, you know — far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, His Spirit deeply and gently within us. ~ EPHESIANS 3:20, The Message

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ EPHESIANS 5:21, NIV

Dancing is the Great Metaphor for Marriage because it requires us to understand the Truth about one another from God’s point of view.

We also need to understand the Truth about our own needs and limitations – and the Truth about our partner’s needs and limitations.

No doubt, every Christian woman loves the idea of being swept off her feet by a godly man who knows how to lead gently & confidently, protecting her & guiding her through life.

A woman has no problem submitting to a man she truly believes has her best interest at the forefront of everything he does.

However, many women – even those who are already married to a Christian man – feel like they can only long for this experience, having no idea how they can help translate this dream into their reality.

And a Christian man loves the thought of having a godly woman to lead – a woman who is confident and provides him with gentle feedback about how well he’s doing … especially if she’s adept at making him look good in the process.

What Christian man would not want a wife whose desire is only to please him and be his partner?

The fact is, most men are inwardly unsure of themselves and rarely get the positive feedback they crave – though they rarely, if ever, ask for it.

But things can be different for the Two of You. Starting today!

I’m here to help you build a better marriage – one that fully demonstrates the passion Jesus has for His Bride.

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a grateful heart

I thank God for leading us to you and your sincere, knowledgeable and anointed spirit and teaching!

From you, we’ve each learned a lot about each other, about communication, and in better understanding each others’ emotions.

More importantly, I believe your teaching (and your “person”) has been instrumental in each of us strengthening our relationships with God (most importantly, my Husband’s).

We cannot be thankful enough for you saving our marriage (would seem almost impossible to most), and also to restoring it to much better than before the separation!

We love you. ~ Jackson & Chalaun

extraordinary insight on men

My wife and I saw Dr. Debi after being married for 23 years and she brought us back from a place where, in my opinion divorce was inevitable, to a loving, caring, more understanding relationship.

I’ve since learned how to communicate better, be more patient, and realize that the two different backgrounds we both were raised from has a huge impact on how we deal with things today.

Dr. Debi is amazing how she’s able to translate what a man is trying to say/tell his wife and have it make sense. She has an extraordinary insight on men and how they speak and what they need in a relationship.

After seeing Dr. Debi I feel much closer to my wife and realize she’s the most important thing I have in my life, and I will protect her to my last breath.

Thanks again Dr. Debi. ~ Mr. P

happier & more in love

Dr. Debi is amazing! She is caring, understanding and highly educated.

She has been given a gift of being able to understand men and provide tools for them to communicate their thoughts & feelings in a way that women can understand.

It’s remarkable.

She is objective and wants your marriage to be successful, she wants you to be madly in love and she is able to provide the tools to get you there.

She was able to bring us back from honestly what both my husband and I thought was an inevitable divorce. We are truly happier and more in love than we have ever been in our 23 year marriage.

We are so very thankful for Dr. Debi – she is a gift from God. ~ Mrs. P

enjoying our marriage

Last fall, we were ready to call it quits. We fought constantly. But because of your great contribution, we had a wonderful anniversary celebration this weekend.

We are enjoying our marriage! And we are thinking of you with full gratitude. Thank you so much, Dr. Debi. ~ Mr. & Mrs. G

taking care of one another

Dr. Debi helped me see that I had expectations for my husband based on my own expectations for myself. I expected my husband, who is mentally wired differently, raised differently, processes differently, communicates differently and is even biologically built differently, to act like me, a female.

Once I was able to realize those differences, I was able to listen and learn what HE needed from me instead of what I thought he needed.

This new outlook opened up new conversations which have led to a level of depth that neither of us knew existed. We are extremely grateful to Dr. Debi for showing us the tools we need to love each other, respect each other, and take care of each other in the way that Christ intended us to. ~ Mrs. K

Articles & Stories

Partnering With a Godly Man

Always remember that you were created for him, not the other way around (1 Corinthians 11:9). Yes, I know this isn’t a very popular statement, but I firmly believe it to be a Fact of Life. Men don’t do well without us (Genesis 2:18).

Learning to Follow

A few years ago, I asked students in my undergraduate psychology classes if – generally speaking – they thought it would be acceptable behavior for a girl to ask a boy out on a date. The women said yes … and so did the men … sort of.